No, I am NOT Pregnant (Yet!)

I have been asked if I was pregnant more times than any woman who is not pregnant should ever be asked.  This is embarrassing but true. Its probably due to alot of things.  One being that I have gained weight over the past several years and it ends up right in the middle, another being that many of the styles and fashions as of late are designed to make you look pregnant even when you are not.  And the biggest reason I can think of is that I am 33, Ive been married for 5 years, and dont yet have kids so folks just EXPECT that you are expecting when they notice you've gained weight.

The first time this happened, I was mortified.  It was 2008 and I was on a group tour of a historical site.  One of the ladies on the tour sat down next to me while we were waiting to board a tour bus and asked me if I was getting enough to eat.  I was all "yeah, are you?" with a little indignation in my tone.  Then this woman, a stranger mind you, launches into a story that started with the words, "Well, I just remember how when I was pregnant..."

I remember no more of what she had to say.  My face was inflamed and my heart was pounding and my eyes were watering and my ears were ringing and it was all I could do to inform her that I was NOT pregnant before rushing to the ladies room to ball my eyes out.

After this first encounter, it progressively got easier to handle when faced with this question. I tried to look on the bright side, that folks asking didn't necessarily think I looked fat ALL OVER, just in my stomach, so given my age and the diamond on my left ring finger, they simply wanted to share in my joy.  B.S.!! Folks are nosy and would be wise to keep their mouth shut unless they know for 100% sure the answer to the question before they ask it. 

I had an old man, a friend of my family, ask me once "when are you due?"  My response, "due for what?" I wish I had a camera to capture the look on his face!

I was ordering at Panera and was asking about the ingredients to a sandwich and the lady taking my order started rubbing her own belly and smiling at me asks, "ooooohhh you got a baby in there?"

Where I work, most of the women my age and marital status ARE, in fact, expecting.  So one of the men who works here just assumed I was too since everyone else was.

Now that I actually want to answer the question in the affirmative, I fear that these negative encounters may rob me of the joy of announcing to the world that I am pregnant, when I actually DO have a baby in there.  At least now when some idiot asks me if I am pregnant I can respond, "not yet!"

Rationalizing Weight Gain While TTC

I am curious, how many women rationalize eating (and gaining) whatever they want because they are TTC?  I have definitely been doing this.  I always need to be on a diet, always. But why try now when I will soon be getting fat for a good cause?  I am sure this is not a smart way to roll.  But right now, with Thanksgiving only a day a way and Christmas gaining on its heels, ALL I can think about is rolls... and dressing... and all things bacon/ham/etc. 

I am going to attempt to continue my workout routines and try to stay even but check back here in a few weeks to see how that worked out for me!

2 Months and Counting

I discovered something very important today.  My cycle length.  It seems that I am a 29 and 1/2 day cycle.  Can you actually count 1/2 a day?  I did.  Because I have not full on started yet.  So I count that as a half day.  Makes sense to me!

I am not upset about it.  I think it is funny when people want to know if you are upset about it.  I don't know why.  I guess I just see it as if its time its time, if not I am glad it didn't happen.  I have had alot of lessons on timing in other areas of my life so I suppose that is helping me to hold onto this loosely.  For example, if God is planning to hook something up that would be better for me not to be pregnant while is happening I certainly dont want to be pregnant.  I think of that verse: Matthew 24:19 " How dreadful it will be in those days for pregnant women and nursing mothers!" This is in reference to end times, and I am not saying I think Jesus is coming back next month (although he might), but I can imagine that being pregnant or nursing outside of God's timing is probably dreadful no matter whats happening.   

Ready and Waiting

Ready is such a funny term.  It insinuates that we have some kind of control over things.  I mean, I suppose to some extent we do have some control over life, even creating it.  We can use a variety of birth control methods.  We can abstain.  We can simply do nothing at all and wait for "the right time."

But then, when you decide you're ready, life makes you wait.

So now I am at that crucial point of submission... to life, to my aging ovaries, and to the Lord himself.   I bet he thought it was real funny when I decided I was "ready" to have a baby.  I bet he was chuckling to himself, "silly girl, when will you learn?"  

The Longest Two Weeks of Any Girl's Life...

Is the time between conception and notification that a baby is, in fact, on the way to join your life story.  So two blogging belle's have teamed up to document laughs, let-downs and lessons learned on the pathway to pregnancy.  We had the idea to do this a long time ago but are just now getting around to actually blogging.  One of us is officially "trying" and the other is only "toying" but not preventing.  So hopefully this will not turn into "Baby Wars" on the race to the stirrups but a fun way to document two women's journeys toward motherhood. 


We may both be bloggers in other lives, but we wanted a place to post our pregnancy plans without alienating the readers on our other blogs, because lets face it, not everyone is interested in this kind of talk! But for those of us who are... its time to get busy!